tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709011735234363026.post8508039635782777474..comments2023-10-01T10:22:31.539+01:00Comments on The Life of a Serial Mistress: The Fear.....Serial Mistresshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01967838365882442725noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709011735234363026.post-79771745069956966472010-01-24T15:10:24.883+00:002010-01-24T15:10:24.883+00:00The layby girl is one of the saddest things i have...The layby girl is one of the saddest things i have heard in a long time. I feel really sorry for her.Antonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07287372497641708971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709011735234363026.post-19330571623320347592010-01-23T00:41:04.716+00:002010-01-23T00:41:04.716+00:00Fear makes people settle ... I suspect I know a fe...Fear makes people settle ... I suspect I know a few people to who this applies. <br /><br />What a refreshing view! I met a man years ago who knocked my socks off and having spent the past few months getting to know him on a more intimate basis I had wondered if this wonderful, but at times taxing, relationship would encourage me to be less independent, and perhaps more needy but alas no. It appears that whilst I think I may want to see more of him, it's on my terms not his, when I'm free not him, and that is not the basis of a successful relationship in my view. But then my very strong view at the moment is that I don't need him, i want him, and that they are two very different things.<br /><br />As always, great post!<br /><br />LHC xxxHot Cockleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08105443826500538409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709011735234363026.post-88072764032436534602010-01-21T22:02:29.850+00:002010-01-21T22:02:29.850+00:00Hahahaha I blame Disney too :) Lol, thanks for ma...Hahahaha I blame Disney too :) Lol, thanks for making me smile :)Serial Mistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01967838365882442725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709011735234363026.post-50006979102798491832010-01-21T21:53:37.691+00:002010-01-21T21:53:37.691+00:00Too true, and its sad that so often women and men ...Too true, and its sad that so often women and men marry because they feel they have to because everyone deserves fulfillment in their lives, but often they pursue a conformist path, because they have been conditioned to only believe in the 'happy ever after' (i blame disney!!!) <br /><br />Keep it up, well donesarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709011735234363026.post-16837491385880955402010-01-21T21:23:18.797+00:002010-01-21T21:23:18.797+00:00Sarah, I totally agree with you, and value your co...Sarah, I totally agree with you, and value your comment. I understand the misery that can be caused by an affair, and that is an unfortunate bi product, usually of a careless man. But I suppose many women marry the wrong man, due to the fear, they assume they 'need' to be married to conform with what is expected and when they sign the paperwork they realise they are in something for life. I know if I was in a relationship that made me unhappy, and I knew it was for the rest of my days, I wouldn't necessarily put my full effort in to it. <br /><br />Maybe, and its just a possibility, and a generalisation, the unfulfilled husbands look elsewhere because their wives married them for the wrong reasons. And the wives who look for something more realise they also married for the wrong reasons and want more from their lives. <br /><br />A friend of mine once confessed that she married because she felt that was the next step, and it was expected, by friends and family. Her husband had several affairs and she didn't mind, because she said she didn't love him that much anyway, and it took the pressure off her. She is disappointed with herself, the choices she has made and with her relationship. For that reason she no longer makes an effort to please him, why should she when he is looking elsewhere, but she agrees she married because she was terrified of being alone, and he asked!!<br /><br />I often wonder, when a man is telling me about his wife making no effort with herself, if she married due to the fear of being alone, and now she doesn't care about the rest of her life. It must happen so often, and what a shame that is. <br /><br />Thanks again for your compliments Sarah and thank you for reading :)Serial Mistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01967838365882442725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709011735234363026.post-270533371935619922010-01-21T21:03:57.254+00:002010-01-21T21:03:57.254+00:00You are absolutely right, on many many topics. It ...You are absolutely right, on many many topics. It is refreshing to hear from a woman who is self sufficient, and as you mentioned not desperate, which not only can be sensed by men a mile off, but also eats into the enjoyment women get from the other 'non man' related areas of their lives, which is a shame. What I mean is many women I know, fail to see or enjoy the fabulous achievements in their lives, career, friendships, homes etc because they feel that nothing is of value unless there is a man in their lives.<br />You live your life by your choices, as you mentioned in the way in which you have decided, and absolutely nobody can devalue, or degrade that and fair play to you. I also think that in saying that, it is something of a shame, that it means that by living your life the way you do, you devalue and degrade the life decisions that another woman has made. Please dont get me wrong, I am not slagging you off or anything, I just think that while you are right, oftentimes an affair can strengthen and help a marriage, sometimes it results in nothing but misery, and that is a real shame, for everyone. No judgement honestly!! Just my thoughts, and the blog is fantastic reading!sarahnoreply@blogger.com