Tuesday, 14 April 2009


But it was to be expected.

It was only going to be a matter of time before it happened, my lifestyle seen through the eyes of a man doing what I do, but has he been criticised? No.

Because, we've always found in this country - a man who sleeps around or looks for no strings fun is a stud, a hero, a man to be patted on the back, (or in this case is helping the married women he sleeps with) but a woman who lives her life as she wants to, not necessarily sleeping around, but dating men, married or single, seeing who she wants when she wants, is criticised, slated and denounced as a home wrecker, a tart, a gold digger, a bitch. How does this happen? Why does this happen?

I thought in this day and age, with women being far more sexually liberated, and able to make her own life choices, she wouldn't bear the brunt of peoples anger towards Illicit Encounters, affairs or flings, but sadly that isn't the case.

Admittedly the article I'm referring to is very well written, much better than the article I appeared in, and there seems to be no 'sensationalism' surrounding his story. It makes me wonder if its because he's a man, because he's sold it as 'helping the women' or because he's drop dead gorgeous and a model?


I wish Daniel all the luck in the world with his chosen path, and his lifestyle matches mine almost to the letter, but I will always be seen as the home wrecker, and he will always be seen as the charitable, caring man doing the sad married women a favour.

I thought times had changed, and we had all become more broadminded, liberated and free, but it seems this will always be the case - One rule for the him and another for her.

1 comment:

  1. Well, he's having fun! I long ago realised that dealing with the media is a tricky business - sometimes it works for you, but more often that not it backfires. A friend of mine once told a national newspaper to make up the story, beacsue he didn't want to talk to them, and "because that's what you guys always do, anyway." And they did, and he was furious...