Tuesday, 14 April 2009

My new addition.......


I have decided to start a new blog to run alongside my current one.

Since I have started this journey talking about my lifestyle and my experiences I have been emailed with several questions relating to all things 'Illicit'. I have decided, therefore, to offer an outlet for people who are having some problems with their affairs, be it emotional, logistical, physical or sexual. I hope my current followers will follow my new blog, and possibly share any problems they might have experienced, in order to help others.

I have had permission from those who have contacted me already to reproduce their original questions and my subsequent answers. I hope this helps anyone currently struggling with their choices, or even just the logistical problems involved in hiding their affairs.

Please feel free to follow and certainly to contribute.

I look forward to hearing from you all xxxxxx

On a lighter note......

To Be 6 Again...

A man was sitting on the edge of the bed, observing his wife, looking at herself in the mirror.

Since her birthday was not far off he asked what she'd like to have for her Birthday.

'I'd like to be six again', she replied, still looking in the mirror.

On the morning of her birthday, he arose early, made her a nice big bowl of Lucky Charms, and then took her to Six Flags theme park. What a day! He put her on every ride in the park; the Death Slide, the Wall of Fear, the Screaming Monster Roller Coaster, everything there was.

Five hours later they staggered out of the theme park. Her head was reeling and her stomach felt upside down.

He then took her to a McDonald's where he ordered her a Happy Meal with extra fries and a chocolate shake.

Then it was off to a movie, popcorn, a soda pop, and her favorite candy, M&M's.

What a fabulous adventure!

Finally she wobbled home with her husband and collapsed into bed exhausted. He leaned over his wife with a big smile and lovingly asked,

'Well Dear, what was it like being six again?'

Her eyes slowly opened and her expression suddenly changed.

'I meant my dress size, you retard!!!!'

The moral of the story: Even when a man is listening, he is gonna get it wrong.


But it was to be expected.

It was only going to be a matter of time before it happened, my lifestyle seen through the eyes of a man doing what I do, but has he been criticised? No.

Because, we've always found in this country - a man who sleeps around or looks for no strings fun is a stud, a hero, a man to be patted on the back, (or in this case is helping the married women he sleeps with) but a woman who lives her life as she wants to, not necessarily sleeping around, but dating men, married or single, seeing who she wants when she wants, is criticised, slated and denounced as a home wrecker, a tart, a gold digger, a bitch. How does this happen? Why does this happen?

I thought in this day and age, with women being far more sexually liberated, and able to make her own life choices, she wouldn't bear the brunt of peoples anger towards Illicit Encounters, affairs or flings, but sadly that isn't the case.

Admittedly the article I'm referring to is very well written, much better than the article I appeared in, and there seems to be no 'sensationalism' surrounding his story. It makes me wonder if its because he's a man, because he's sold it as 'helping the women' or because he's drop dead gorgeous and a model?


I wish Daniel all the luck in the world with his chosen path, and his lifestyle matches mine almost to the letter, but I will always be seen as the home wrecker, and he will always be seen as the charitable, caring man doing the sad married women a favour.

I thought times had changed, and we had all become more broadminded, liberated and free, but it seems this will always be the case - One rule for the him and another for her.