Thursday, 9 October 2014

Mistress with a capital M

A mistress, or dominatrix, is used to describe the dominant female in a BDSM or sexual pair that includes a male submissive.  There are many forms of dominant/submissive relationships and the acts performed can range from gentle to severe. The main factors are that the female is dominant and the acts are agreed upon by both parties.

The Role of the Mistress in BDSM Situations
In dominant/submissive relationships with a mistress, the female is the dominant person in the situation. She dominates the submissive male with acts that deliver a combination of pain and pleasure. Men seeking a submissive role are not always submissive in daily life. It is common for men with high powered careers to enjoy relinquishing control and taking on the submissive role in the bedroom.
Although submissive and dominant play is sometimes used by people in committed relationships, some men with a penchant for being dominated prefer to be in the hands of a professional. A professional mistress or dominatrix provides specialized services and a level of control that enables the submissive male to relax and release complete control to her.

Explore Your Deepest Desires
Whether with a partner or through the services of a professional mistress, dominant/submissive activity allows you to explore your deepest desires and fantasies. This may include bondage, domination, spanking, and a range of BDSM and fetish activities. The specific scenario is based on the desires of the individual, but the female is leading and dominating the submissive male.
Sometimes the play between a mistress and submissive can get rough, so it is important to set rules and take safety precautions to prevent injury. The activity and rules should be agreed upon in advance. Because it can be easy to get carried away, it is advisable to have a safety word that can be used by the submissive partner, if things are getting a bit too rough.

Services from Professional Mistresses
The specific services offered by professional mistresses vary, but it is relatively easy to find a provider offering the services you are seeking. Many professionals list their services through online directories, such as those found at All activity is consensual and sex is not part of any paid service offered by a professional dominatrix. Any such activity that may occur is consensual and outside of the services.

Tuesday, 7 October 2014

Wrong or right Mistress?

It seems most people following me on Twitter assume I'm a 'Mistress' with a capital M and a whip in hand.  I have to say, I've dabbled a little in the past, but that is not really what the serial mistress is all about.  Yes its about being open and adventurous sexually, but it certainly doesn't mean I'm standing on a set of balls in my stilettos or pushing knitting needles into parts while a man cleans my windows in a maids outfit.

However, I'm always one to please the masses - if they want to read these things - so I'll be posting some very interesting articles over the next few weeks about BDSM and 'Mistresses'.  I hope these are fascinating, and I hope you enjoy them, if not, simply comment and let me know, but any posts about sex are interesting - aren't they? :)

Thursday, 8 May 2014

Can you help???

Fascinating project in the pipeline.  Unfortunately I'm not right for it - in fact I'm probably exactly what it DOESN'T need - I'm the cause of jealousy! :)

Anyway, I'm not sure if any of my readers would be interested in either taking part, or know someone who would be happy talking about their extreme jealousy, and what they are doing about it.  

The details are below:-

We are working on a project for Channel 4 about morbid jealousy and the effect it has on couples. We would like to speak to people in the UK involved in relationships that are blighted by this condition, which is sometimes called the Othello Syndrome. Perhaps this is triggered by an affair and the couple are trying to rebuild trust - but finding it hard - or a mental illness; paranoia, insecurity, psychosis. We are looking for people who're constantly checking mobile phones, emails and social media for clues of infidelity or another 'issue'. Perhaps people use lie detectors or other technology in a desperate bid to restore trust. They recognise this is a problem and want to do something about it, to move forward.
We would like to find out the effect this is having on relationships and would like to talk to both partners to find out how each is affected by the jealousy. 
The company making the film is the highly respected factual programme maker Screenhouse, based in Leeds. We make high quality, sensitive, non-sensational films. For further information and examples of work please go to

I am keen to reach out to as many people as possible to her their experiences of this and wonder if you can help in anyway. Do you know anyone who might be prepared to speak to us? Please get in touch for a no obligation, confidential chat.

Feel free to comment (privately) or contact me, and I will of course pass on your details to the company involved.  Your details, comments or stories will be treated in the strictest confidence. 

Thanks folks 

Tuesday, 6 May 2014

Can it help?

Interview with Andrew Peach on BBC Berkshire with me and Mike Taylor - can it ever help a relationship?

BBC Berkshire with Andrew Peach

Tuesday, 29 April 2014

Celibacy - could you???

I had a fabulous chat with the wonderful Adrian Goldberg on BBC WM yesterday discussing celibacy and could we live without sex.  The ex wife of Chris Tarrant, Ingrid, talked openly about sex, or her choice not to have sex, since her split with her husband seven years ago.  I have to admit, she sounded more like a single woman with a desire to find the right man rather than a celibate woman, but hey, we've all been single and gone without for a while - I'm not sure that makes us celibate.

Anyway, the whole interview is available here for the next six days.  Catch a listen and see what you think.  Could you live without sex?

BBC WM Ingrid Tarrant and Adrian Goldberg

Friday, 18 April 2014

TFM and Metro Radio interview

Hope you all enjoy it :)