The Life of a Serial Mistress

I'm watching Katie Price on TV and its made me ask the question what makes a woman beautiful. We are surrounded by media telling us we have to be size 4, skinny, big boobs, tall, long hair, long nails, perfect makeup, just the right clothes, but is that what makes us beautiful? As Jordan she was a sex symbol, driving men wild up and down the country, and as Katie Price, although the image has changed dramatically, she is still very attractive to many, but as many?? Who knows. Has she attracted a new breed of 'follower' by being a yummy mummy? Cheryl Cole, a stunning woman, amazing figure, hair, face, exterior but it wasn't enough for her to keep her man faithful. Her husband has wandered, you would think because she's traditionally beautiful he wouldn't need to. Liz Hurley, also a stunning woman, amazing figure, hair, face, exterior but it wasn't enough for Hugh Grant to stay faithful, ending up with a hooker, who quite frankly was not a classic beauty. Is i...

I'm looking into the wide variety of men who choose to have an affair, an illicit encounter, a fling, a one night stand, and their reasons for doing so. Its impossible to pigeon-hole people, but in my experience it seems they all (in some shape or form) fall into one of three categories. I wonder which you are :) Mr Womaniser - the man who has been doing this for years, he's had countless affairs, flings, one night stands, call them what you like, while he was 'courting' his wife, and since the wedding. Its a natural thing for him. He adamantly believes that monogamy is an unnatural state and men are meant to spread their seed. His wife is oblivious because the lifestyle he has created for her has blinded her rationality. He is usually debonair, charming, attractive, smart, intelligent and witty. He knows what he has and knows how to use it and has been using it, over and over, since the day he hit puberty. No one on the earth would ever stop him doing what he does best...

I suppose its a side effect of being a serial mistress, and dating more than one guy, that eventually one or two will fall by the wayside and quickly be replaced. Is it natural selection, survival of the fittest, or stupidity on their part? lol. Another one has recently bitten the dust, surprisingly (or not, however you view my recent 'activities') because of the media attention. He assumed (but was never told) that he was the only one. He goes home to his wife every night, and has another girlfriend he sees occasionally, but was 'beside himself' when he realised I had more than one suitor. He felt seeing me once a fortnight was enough for any girl (ahhh the delusions of a man with an over inflated ego lol), and thought I couldn't possibly need any other attention because three text messages and one call a day sufficed! :) Anyway, the dummy has been tossed from the pram, along with the teddy and a small ball, which is still bouncing around my living room :) ...

I sometimes wonder if this 'Illicit' life is for me, when I'm in on Friday night cos all the men are playing happy families, but I thought I'd share my Friday night with you. I got in from work, and some skiving and shopping, buying new underwear which is just gorgeous :) I had a long soak in the bath with a beautiful glass of Rioja, and read more of my book, and not once did anyone bang on the door screaming 'Hurry up, I need a shite' :) I spent half an hour rubbing the most gorgeous cream into myself, with no need to explain to anyone why it was taking so long and why I had to do it. I painted my nails, gave myself a pedicure, exfoliated and conditioned my hair to death, and no one saw me doing my secret single behaviour :) I had pate and toast cos I just couldn't be bothered to cook and finished the bottle of wine * note to self, must buy that again. Watched TV, and not once did the channel change without my knowledge. I haven't suffered Sky Spo...

I was contemplating ending my blog because I didn't think I had enough to say, and didn't want to be seen as bragging about my life or experience, but sod it, I've sat on Lorraine Kellys sofa and told the world what I do so a blog on here won't kill me. Who knows, it might actually be interesting and I've had such lovely words of support from everyone around me that I may well end up with the book I always wanted to write :) Thank you to everyone posting comments and sending emails. I'm grateful to know I'm not the only one who thinks this isn't worthy of a discussion in parliament, and declaring a state of emergency in North Yorkshire :)

Well, the deed has been done, and short of crucifying myself for wearing the wrong outfit, and hating the 'sofa' shot, I've been on TV standing up for the rights of the 'Mistress' and proving that it can be a lifestyle choice and not the behaviour of a marriage wrecking ho-bag :) The experience has been interesting, to say the least, and it has been an eye opener, but I am a teeny bit proud of myself (although most people would say I should be ashamed of myself not proud) that I've taken a stand on a subject that, so far, seems to have been taboo in the media. The mistress has always been portrayed as the sad, pale, emotional wreck who is desperate for him to leave, sits in every night pining and wishes she'd met him earlier :) I don't believe I've pined over anyone in my life, and I'm not about to start now :) There are mistresses out there, who love our lifestyles, who love being pampered, love 100 % attention, and love (not in the full sens...

The backlash has been 'interesting' to say the least. I've had positive mail, supporting what I have done, and why I do it. I've had several 'friend requests' on Facebook, from men who are looking for a little extra. I've read, and acknowledged, the anger that seems to be brewing on the Fabulous Mag forum. But it astounds me that people seem hell bent on criticising me and what I look like as opposed to what I do and why I do it. Some of the classics include :- ********************************************************************************** I hope she settles down soon and her man strays seriously get a grip on your life learn when to stop.Does she even think for a minue how the wife may feel??!!! She is nothing but a fat disgraceful HOMEWRECKER!! Get a life This lady is a disgrace! It isn't just men who are capable of cheating but most don't as there would be no point to marriage if you could stray. I got married in September and this story really...