The Life of a Serial Mistress

The link to the BBC Inside Out programme aired last night.  And I only had a couple of nasty messages, things are obviously improving lol http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b01nr5ky/Inside_Out_North_East_and_Cumbria_05_11_2012/

Last chance to listen to the interview I did about cheaterville.com on Radio Tees.  A very interesting debate about the destructive nature of the site, and how affairs don't have to blow your world apart. http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p00z1m0s

Here is a link to the article I did for the Daily Express yesterday. What do you think is the perfect amount?  Is 30+ too many?  Is 2 too few?  I don't think I know anyone who has had less than 20 :) What is your magic number?  And do you regret it or embrace it? http://www.express.co.uk/posts/view/347400/How-many-lovers-have-YOU-had-

Tut tut Andrew, at it again!  Proving my point though, once a cheat - always a cheat, or every man will take the opportunity if it's presented to him at the right time. Anyway, we were discussing this on the Mike Parr show on Radio Tees yesterday morning.  And also debating the question - 'Is sorry every enough?' Andrew Marr's wife is incredibly upset with him, understandably, but will his 'Sorry I was drunk' comment cure all?  They have a forced separation for a week or two due to his work commitments, will that help or hinder the crisis?  Who knows.  But all men in the public eye should really sort themselves out and stop being so bloody indiscreet! Men! :) Here's the link to my interview with Mike, and the lovely Rosie Freeman-Jones was on before me too. On from about 34 mins into the show.  Rosie starts about 20 mins in. Enjoy  xx http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p00xrfd5

The latest article on Female First... http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/real+life+story-253989.html

The lovely Rosie Freeman-Jones was on Sunday Morning Live this morning, and did a wonderful job - as usual. Check it out on BBC iPlayer, she's on from about 44 minutes into the show. http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b01md55s/Sunday_Morning_Live_Series_3_Episode_9/

I had the pleasure of debating the subject of cheating with Emiliana Silvestre on This Morning, with the lovely Eammon and Ruth.  Emiliana has written a book -  101 Ways to keep a man  and claims that even a serial cheat or player can be converted if he's in the perfect relationship, with the right woman.  The debate raised the question of 'Once a cheat, always a cheat' following the revelations in the press recently about Grant Bovey and Anthea Turner. So, do you believe a cheat will always cheat?  Or can he/she be changed into the epitome of monogamy with the right person?  Emiliana says the woman should make the effort to prevent him from straying, and in some respects I agree with her.  I've always advocated wives should try harder and their husbands would (possibly) not cheat if they are happier - however, the thought of constantly trying would be exhausting.  Should a woman really spend her life 'preventing' an affair rather than trusting ...

The Diary of a Mistress is going really well on the Female First website.  It is also on the Malextra site, so guys can read the female perspective on infidelity - and how we think after dates , good and bad.  I'm enjoying writing for them, however, my blog is suffering, but don't worry, there will be more appearing here soon :)  Watch this space... You can catch my latest Female First part here: http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/Real+Life+Story-249807.html I can't quite believe it is up to Part 8 already :)   Yay!!! :)  Hope you're enjoying reading it xx

To whoever left the anonymous comment regarding a photograph, how am I supposed to respond if you are doing it under the cover of anonymity?  My email address is available on this site.  I suggest you contact me directly to discuss the matter further.  Wouldn't that be the most sensible approach?  I will leave the choice up to you! Thank you.

Yet again, the Jools Oliver subject rumbles on.  I was on the Mike Parr show this morning, on BBC Tees.  This is the link if you want to listen in.  The whole interview starts at 45mins.  A very interesting piece, with Rosie from IE, a woman whose husband cheated, me and then the lovely Denise Robertson - always fun!!  It goes on till about 1hr 20.  Well worth a listen. http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio/player/p00ty72s

Jools Oliver has hit the press today because she has freely admitted to checking husband Jamie's phone, email and Twitter account to make sure he's not cheating.  Fair play to her, she was open about it, and he clearly knows she does it, but is it a huge invasion of privacy, or something anyone in a serious relationship should be happy to allow? BBC Three Counties radio were doing a piece about it on their Drive show with Roberto Perrone this evening.  They wanted the opinion of a Serial Mistress, so here I am.  I'd love to hear your opinions on the matter too :) Available for the next 7 days http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio/player/p00twp43 And I'm on from 2hr 20 mins

Some interesting facts about orgasms:- Ever wondered what your partners' orgasm feels like? Researchers have found that men's and women's descriptions of hitting bliss are in fact very similar. The average guy takes between two and 10 minutes to hit nirvana, whereas women take over 20 minutes. But on the other hand, a man's orgasm tends to be shorter than a woman's, which will last between three and 15 seconds. The word 'orgasm' comes from the Greek orgasmos , 'to swell as with moisture, be excited or eager'. Women lucky enough to experience female ejaculation usually expel less than 1 teaspoon of pale, sweet tasting fluid when they climax. No matter what his shape and size down below, the likelihood of hitting the jackpot in bed doesn't change. Usually, a woman's orgasm produces ripples of pleasure towards her stomach, which is thought to help draw sperm towards her eggs. But during her period, the contractions travel in the oppos...

Oh my, he was tougher than I thought he'd be.  But he was certainly tougher with me than he was with the married woman who was cheating on her husband.  Why is that?  Why is it the single mistress is the devil but the married woman isn't?  There are always double standards when it comes to infidelity.  It's an interesting show though, with three of us doing our piece :)  Well done to all of us.  He wasn't easy. http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p00tqztx/Graham_Torrington_25_06_2012/

I'm an injured gazelle?  FFS!!! Why does a woman who sees married men have to be seen as damaged? http://www.hlntv.com/video/2012/06/20/will-any-man-cheat-if-given-opportunity

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What a shame the point was missed again. http://www.hlntv.com/video/2012/06/20/serial-mistress-i-have-never-once-broken-marriage This is the first 6 mins of the interview that took almost 45 mins.  Its a shame they don't give a feed to the whole thing.  I tutted and shook my head through most of it because their 'experts' missed the point completely.  One day they might listen to me, not judge me on what I look like, and realise I have a realistic and valid viewpoint. One day!

I had a great chat yesterday morning with my old friend Adrian Goldberg - I miss out late night chats on TalkSport.  Anyway, the lovely BBC WM team have turned it into an Audioboo for you all to listen to :)  It was so much fun.  And I do love to make Adrian blush :) Enjoy http://audioboo.fm/boos/852799

32% admit to cheating on their partner while at a wedding reception without their other half 4% have flashed at their Xmas party 50% say they would give up sex for six months in return for a 50 inch plasma TV 34% of single men admit they don't have a girlfriend because they are too fussy 10% would have sex with anyone for £100.  Even a bloke???? Surely not! lol 19% try to copy their favourite male celebrity's outfits Holiday pictures have encouraged 47% of men to lose weight 20% think their girlfriend takes them for granted 37% say their computer is in their top three most-prized possessions Men, on average, have the best sex of their lives aged 36 5% say their car brings them the most happiness in their life. Losers!!! 61% think white underwear is sexier than red 22% have chosen a restaurant for the first date so they can use a money-saving voucher 17% of married men wish they'd known how much time they'd have to spend with their in-laws before they got ...

I don't have time to hate people who hate me I'm too busy loving people who love me  :)  Hope everyone has a fabulous Friday - I know I will 

There are so many more people visiting my blog since the press hit the fan recently.  Many have had a lot of hideous, insulting comments to make about me, and I have to accept that, but I thought I'd start from scratch for any new ones who don't really know me and why I do this.  If you already despise what I do then this won't make a difference, but if you just wanted more background info about me, maybe it will help  ****************************************** This is my chance to set the record straight. I'm sure it won't silence the haters, but I never claimed to be a Jackass Whisperer. There will always be people quick to judge on looks alone, quick to jump to conclusions based on a headline, regardless of whether it is true or not, and quick to form an opinion without knowing all the facts. Gossip sites wouldn't be gossip sites, and newspapers wouldn't sell so many, if those people didn't exist. But thankfully, my blog gives me a voice...

You never change! lol The comments on the Daily Mail piece today have been beyond hilarious.  Still so many people look at the picture and COMPLETELY miss the point!  I love them all.  I wonder if they sail through their lives judging each and every person on looks alone, and never actually taking on an alternative opinion, blinkered to every other view.  I can't honestly imagine living in such a small world where only one way to live is allowed.  I wonder how many of them are vegetarians or naturists :) Mind you, their opinion hasn't really been helped by the newspaper themselves.  An 'exact' copy of the Mirror article was meant to appear, but all of a sudden I've gone from 'dating 50 married men' to 'having an affair with over 50 men in a shocking confession'!  What a pile of crap they create.  Of course I'm going to be hated by their readers if that is how they portray me.  Of course the judgemental will jump on the judging bus as fast...

And my second instalment of the Diary of a Mistress has appeared on the Female First site.  Different style, slightly less serious, but entertaining - I hope. http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/relationships-242530.html I'd be interested to hear your comments on here too :)

Good afternoon everyone, and I hope you're enjoying this fabulous weather!  Eeuughh!  Roll on summer! The Daily Mail Online have run with a piece today, a copy of the story in the People mag.  But at least this time the pics are nicer! :) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2155767/Confessions-serial-mistress-Affairs-50-married-men-past-years-Mr-Right.html

Sent to me today, so I thought I'd share it with you :)  See, a mistress doesn't have to be a supermodel  Have a fabulous Jubilee weekend everyone, and eat all the cake you can :) 

The first of the Serial Mistress Real Life Columns :) http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/Real+Life+Story-241545.html

Gosh, I'm quite surprised.  I didn't get as many hateful comments as I expected on the Daily Mirror site, and none at all on The People article.  Could it be that I'm actually making people realise I'm not the evil witch they think I am?  Or have they figured that I will justify what I do in any argument or discussion I have? Yet again, I have been criticised purely for what I look like, rather than what I do.  It's hilarious how shallow some people can be, and quite sad that they would accept what I do if I looked like Cheryl Cole!  Ah well, it will never change, but neither will I :)  I'm not planning on pushing a lettuce leaf around a plate just to be accepted by the small minded anonymous few who wish to comment on my life.  I have loved me, and my looks, since before Gok started championing the idea.  Many would probably tell me to look in the mirror and 'get over myself' - as one email advised - but surely confidence and self-esteem are fa...

I've got writer's block.  There I've said it.  I can't put anything I want to say into words.  I have to though.  I have people waiting for me to produce something witty and interesting, but so far - nothing. I was advised a while ago, by a dubious literary agent, that I should save my best writing for the book, but that has meant my blog has suffered, badly.  But now I've started writing for my blog again I just can't say what I want!  It's driving me mad!! I used to write for fun and didn't care if anyone liked it or not.  I didn't mind if my followers found my writing immature or incompetent.  But now my writing has to step up, a considerable amount.  With offers and potential offers in the pipeline, now is the time to get serious. I am my own worst enemy.  I am incredibly self-critical and I dissect everything I ever produce, finding fault at every point.  I've done that most of my life with practically everything I have e...

For those who missed it yesterday, here is my interview with Jonathan Cowap on Radio York.  He gave me time to speak, and the response was 'varied' to say the least.  The consensus of opinion around York seems to be 'she's no better than a whore', but hopefully I managed to make them see my perspective.  Maybe one day these people will open their minds, look past their anger, and listen to me! :) The lovely Jonathan at least gave me the opportunity to answer my critics, and clarify a few points.  All in all, it was a great interview. I'm on from the top of the show for about half an hour, and then I'm back on about 1hr 51mins in.  Enjoy. And I hope everyone has a fabulous weekend xxx http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p00s63q4/Jonathan_Cowap_25_05_2012/

I'm sorry my blog seems to be short posts and links right now, but obviously it's a bit busy.  Had lots to do in the press (again) and lots to sort out in my private life.  Normal service shall be resumed very soon :) I'm going to be on BBC Radio York today at 9am. You can listen live here - or I'll post a link to iplayer later. http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio/stations/radioyork Have a good day everyone xxx

BBC Radio Tees interview today http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio/player/p00rm4wb?lang=en I'm on from 46mins :) Enjoy xxxx

No, don't worry, not mine, and not one of my married men, although it seems they may need to visit the GP for a check up after being around me :) Very interesting article. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2148426/Its-just-bad-marriage-Cheating-partner-heart-attack.html

Oh it's going to be a busy day.  I wonder how many death threats I'll get on this fine sunny morning :) For those who are wondering what I'm waffling on about: http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/real-life-stories/mistress-who-only-dates-married-844040 But I'm also a headline - in fact I'm the first story - on the main home page of the Mirror!  Ooops.  I thought everyone was bored of it by now, I didn't realise the Mirror would go for it in such a big way.  How funny!!! So, if I go quiet after today, you know I've been tracked down and murdered in my sleep by someone who has missed the whole point of the article :) Have a fabulous sunny day everyone xxxxxx

For anyone who missed the article on Sunday :) http://www.people.co.uk/magazine/real-life/2012/05/19/i-date-married-men-102039-23864716/

For those who follow me and are interested, I will be in The People newspaper's colour magazine (Take It Easy) tomorrow (Sunday) as part of an infidelity feature, and in the women's section of The Mirror on Wednesday.  They are both interesting articles and should make fascinating, if controversial, reading. For those who hate my guts and wish me dead, there will be pictures so you can throw darts at them all week :)  Fill your boots!!!! lol

Well, I was going to post a link to iplayer, but Radio Humberside are on the ball :) This is the Audioboo of my interview this afternoon.  Thanks Radio Humberside, and sorry Carl, I know you hated what I do, cos you're happily married, but hey, not everyone is. http://audioboo.fm/boos/800635-the-serial-mistress

I  hope you all caught the Lovehoney documentary last night.  It was hugely entertaining and very interesting.  And it's lovely to see that even in hard times (scuse the pun) we are still having fantastic sex! If you missed it, you can still catch it here for quite a while.  Give it a go.  It might open your eyes.  And remember you can order from Lovehoney via my page, so please feel free to go and browse, it is one of the best online companies I have ever used. http://www.channel4.com/programmes/more-sex-please-were-british/4od

I've recently been reading the Fifty Shades of Grey novel, classed as 'mummy porn', which I can't quite understand, but I suppose, as a mainstream book, it is 'interesting', even though it's badly written.  With better editing and less repetitive prose it would have been a 5* book, but sadly, too much eye-rolling and lip-biting became irritating after the first couple of offences. I would consider it titillating and light hearted fun but most certainly not a literary classic.  However, I am a huge fan of an amazing author from America.  Phil Torcivia has had many ebooks published - available on Amazon for the Kindle - and writes an engaging and entertaining blog.  He is currently writing his own version of the Fifty Shades trilogy - Fifty Shades of Silver Hair and Socks - a little tongue in cheek but a far better read. Find the time to visit his blog and catch up on the daily excerpts, it brightens my mornings and I'm sure you will enjoy it just as m...

Modern technology, does it help or hinder being unfaithful? Radio London I'm on from around 1hr 46mins.  (Lovely woman, but frustrating when she interrupts!) :)

The latest article appearing in Rude Magazine - all about being a serial mistress :) http://www.rudemagazine.co.uk/features/the-serial-mistress.php

I will not get naked on the first or second date.  Waste anyones time if there's no spark. Tolerate unemployed, illiterate, rude men who don't make any effort for me.  Stop asking stupid questions like 'Who was your favourite Womble?' and 'If you were a biscuit, what sort would you be?' Not answer any ridiculously personal questions before I meet, such as 'Do you spit or swallow?'

A fabulous online magazine I was introduced to this afternoon.  What a great source of fascinating information.  A must read for all of my followers :) Rude Magazine

His hair is sexily chopped, he smells of Chanel, his suit is Armani, and what's that on his feet?????  Donald Duck socks, of course!!!  What is this shit??? Grown men padding around in primary-coloured cartoon-character socks is neither cute nor endearing.  But you can't just blame the boy-men: give a slap on the wrists for those bad-taste women who buy them the shameless socks in the first place.  Kick those Disney socks into touch, please!!! Maybe, the wife hopes it will put off any advancing woman and, in this case, it worked!

More interesting but true facts about my favourite subject... 1/3 of men have never had a romantic breakfast with their girlfriend One fifth of men have had a steamy Skype session 70% of men have watched porn online. I think the others are lying 27% of men would sleep with someone 'repulsive' for £1m 96% of men wouldn't send flowers to their partner's work 18% of men go on a diet because of a new partner Men think a loose bun is the best hairstyle for a first date 11% of men admit to flirting at work Men spend an average of £235 a year on looking good 42% of men say they're single because they are shy 57% of men would prefer a month without sex than a month without their mobile 28% of men don't know girls pluck their chin hairs 27% of men would date a married woman 50% of holiday romances last less than a week 33% of men say they feel depressed on 'fat days' 1/4 men wee in the shower 79% of men think it's most likely they'll...

I've been getting grief for not posting, so I've decided to start again.  Various reasons stopped me writing but I've missed it.  I've been keeping up with my posts, on paper, but just not on here.  I realised it wasn't what I started the blog for, so here I am again.  Time to get back into it, and start enjoying what I loved doing in the first place. If anyone has anything negative to say about my return, please crack on, but nothing is going to stop me posting any more. :)